The ice breaker

I have always believed in having a healthy dialogue for resolving issues. Hence, the restlessness that has kept up with me over breaking up with a friend on some misunderstanding is hopefully about to end in a few days. We are slated to meet. I took the initiative, though I had to enlist our common friend to do that. We have such immense potential to be better beings and yet we restrict ourselves with unnecessary squabbles and ego hassles.

When I was younger, I remember walking away if anybody ever quarrelled with me. I wasn't good at speaking up for myself. I thought 'less the said' was better. Now, after going through a rigorous world of architecture school and the professional world, and of course, growing up to the point as to clearing up indifferences, it's advisable always to say 'only' things that matter. Mostly, we tend to flow in the stream of past mistakes, which we have analysed a thousand times in our head. It's really beneficial to speak out. But not hurtful things. I always follow this principle of being nice because I wouldn't want myself to be treated with trash. It matters a lot. So, for others to be nice to me, I need to be nice to everyone from the start. And, what happens when someone doesn't reciprocate, well, we ignore them.

Conversation is the biggest ice breaker! I thoroughly believe in it. Positively. I remember this one incidence from my internship where a comment from a co-worker pissed me off and I said something hurtful to him in return. I realised his jest nature and decided to apologise the next day. Only, he didn't even look at me. Then, when he sat down next to me for some computer work, I spoke to him. He listened with his eyes glued to the screen, and smiled when I said, I will fill his desk with chocolates if he doesn't speak to me. So, that was when I realised the power of having conversation and clearing out the mist. It works. It truly does. Words have the immense power of mending broken pieces and healing souls too. Try it. Forgive the ones who hurt you and have a conversation instead with them. It will bring peace to all.